I’ve probably said this before, but I’m super curious by nature, and since my goal for this space is always to remain 100% transparent with you I thought it was only right to open up the lines for questions. So, here it goes!Did Pete stay in Chicago? After Pete and I broke up last December we flew back home for Christmas and spent time with our friends and families before meeting back up to make the trip back to Chicago. He made the decision to move back to Kansas City and left a few days after we got back. Chicago has always been my dream, but we both came to realize that it wasn’t his, and that’s okay.
Are you and Pete still friends? I think when you go through a relatively amicable breakup it’s easy to think, “Okay, we can do this. We can be friends.” I’ll be the first to admit I was naive to think that. It felt like the comfortable thing to do at the time, but simply put, it’s not healthy (for us at least). Moving on from an intimate relationship takes time and there is a hefty amount of healing that needs to happen. I imagine by the time that takes place we will both be moved on in our respective lives and it won’t seem as necessary to force something that is no longer there, if that makes any sense?
What is the best way to meet new people in a new city? (Another gal wrote, “If you wouldn’t mind providing some advice or words of wisdom for this new Chicagoite that would be incredibly helpful and wonderful.”) I think it really depends on what you enjoy doing! For instance, if you like working out, chances are you will find new friends at the studio or gym you frequent. You can start small by taking the same workout classes together and then move onto other activities that interest the both of you! I’ve connected with a few girls here at Studio Three and it’s been great to have people to meet up with on a consistent basis. If working out isn’t your thing, that’s okay! Maybe you’re passionate about volunteering or you really like following your favorite college basketball team – find out where people with those same goals and interests are hanging! My first experience at Off the Street Club here in Chicago proved that there are a ton of people my age who invest a portion of their month hanging with the kids of the club. I’ve also been introduced to several KU bars here in Lincoln Park and the West Town neighborhoods full of people with the same idea in mind (to kick back over good drinks, great convo, and sports…less emphasis on that last one 😉 ). Another great way to meet friends is at work. I realize this isn’t revolutionary by any means, but I met my really good friend Alyssa while working in corporate communications back in Kansas City and I’m so thankful that we were both open to making that sort of connection in a more formal setting! I think it all boils down to saying yes to everything, being present, and being open to meeting people anywhere!
What are your tips for traveling alone? Believe it or not, I’ve never traveled alone! I’ve toyed with the idea, but I’ve always ended up either traveling with or meeting up with groups of friends, a significant other, or family. Not wanting to leave you empty handed here, I remembered that Jess wrote a great post chock-full of advice on traveling solo! How much time do you spend on Instagram a day? I’m guilty of checking my Instagram first thing when I wake up in the morning and it’s usually the last thing I look at before I doze off at night. I do feel like my time on the app decreased significantly after the latest algorithm changes rolled out though. It’s getting harder and harder to “keep up,” if you will. I tend to use Instagram in spurts. I’ll be really good at liking and commenting for a day or two and then I’ll fall behind and say to hell with it. That doesn’t mean I’m not still posting to my feed or stories though, it’s just more of a log on to post and then get back to whatever it is I need to be doing. I’d really like to invest more time leaving genuine comments like I used to.
What are those balls for? (In reference to these lacrosse balls, which I’ve shared on my Instagram story a handful of times.) I use them to roll out my muscles and release tension after working out! I can’t even begin to tell you how much better my body feels now that I’ve been consistently foam rolling and incorporating lacrosse balls into my routine. It’s cut my recovery time way down!
I guess my biggest question is, I see links to all these amazing clothing items from Nordstrom, J. Crew, Anthropologie, but how do you afford these clothes? I work full time as an Interior Designer and sell Rodan and Fields on the side, and I still think those stores are expensive! It always seems like you (and other Chicago ladies blogs I read) always are getting new things! It’s important to remember that for a lot of the gals you are following, blogging is their business, and with any business you have to spend money to make money. I realize that might sound strange to some, but that’s the mentality I think a lot of bloggers have (they just might not feel comfortable voicing it). Occasionally I will be gifted clothing (or a gift card to purchase clothing), but those items will always be marked c/o and should be on other blogs, too! It also depends on where your budget goes. For instance, I no longer own a car (which means no car payment, insurance, gas, etc.) and that leaves more room in my budget for items that might seem more frivolous to others. I’m curious what your job/career is? I’ve been following your blog for a bit so I know you’ve changed jobs and moved and run the blog, but it seems like your schedule is quite flexible, so I was wondering how you make it happen? (Another gal asked, “What do you do for work? Do you blog full time? If so, how did you make that transition?”) Right now I’m working for a university doing editing and writing through the end of June, and I also do freelance writing for a wedding photographer, social media content curation for a national brand, run this blog, and I have this wild and crazy idea for a product I’m hoping to bring to life someday. (Side note: Reading this was a good reminder that what you see on social media isn’t necessarily the full picture and everything is not always as it seems. I’m hoping to gather my thoughts on this subject and work it into a full blog post for you here soon!)
Are you a full-time blogger? I’m not a full-time blogger! Full disclosure: I have a long, long way to go (read: grow) before I would be able to make that happen.
What books would you say someone at 26 should read? Read everything, seriously! I don’t think there’s any harm in reading anything and everything that catches your eye. Grace is an amazing resource and always my go-to when I’m stumped on what book to pick up next! That being said, if you’re looking for a kick in the pants (quarter life crisis, anyone?), I loved You are a Badass and Dream Year.
And there you have it! All your burning questions, answered. If there is anything else you’d like to know, feel free to leave me a comment or shoot me an email!
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Faux Leather Jacket // Topshop Cami // Black Skinny Jeans // Aviator Sunglasses // Suede Heels (sold out, but I love this pair!) // Maya Brenner Initial Necklace // Tortoise Bracelet // Monica Vinader Bracelet c/o // Strappy Bra
Photos by Charmingly Styled